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Lanza Mom Tried To Get Him Out Of The House

From the New York Daily News:

Inside the mind of Newtown killer Adam Lanza; he ‘was like a ghost’

His mother spotted his precipitous withdrawal before he went on his rampage at Sandy Hook Elementary School. ‘He didn’t understand why she wanted him to go out into the world. She told me she couldn’t reach him — and she was worried,’ says a family friend.

By Matthew Lysiak | Wednesday, December 19, 2012

In the days before the massacre, the mother of Adam Lanza was pushing her loner son to leave the Newtown home that provided his refuge from reality, a family friend told the Daily News Wednesday.

“He sat in his room playing video games for hours and hours,” the friend said. “She thought the best thing was for him to get out of the house and into the world. To interact with people a little bit.”

But the 20-year-old rejected the idea and stopped speaking to his mother, the friend said. Nancy Lanza and her youngest son hadn’t talked for three days before he fatally shot her Friday morning and then murdered 20 children and six staffers at Sandy Hook Elementary School.

Nancy Lanza had brought her son to a psychiatrist as he became increasingly anti-social — spending endless hours in his room by himself.

“He was like a ghost,” the friend said.

When the mother pressed the issue of moving away, “he didn’t want to leave,” according to the pal. “He didn’t understand why she wanted him to go out into the world. She told me she couldn’t reach him — and she was worried.”

But there was never any hint of violence.

“He would start yelling and stuff like that,” the friend said. “He would never hit her. He would just act like a child when he got mad. That’s what she told me.”

A recent attempt to take Adam on a southern vacation ended with his refusal to accompany his mom, who was also suggesting that he needed to get a job or perhaps start college.

“She felt that he was slipping into himself, and that it was time for him to move forward,” the friend said. “He was pushing back against this idea.”

While Nancy hadn’t set a hard deadline for Adam to move out, her concern was increasing as he became more “distant” and “withdrawing into himself,” the friend said.

“I’m not sure that’s the reason he snapped, but it’s my best guess,” the friend said. “I knew that that was the source of any stress between the two.”

The friend also rejected a report that Nancy was planning to have her son committed to a psychiatric facility.

“Nancy was so dedicated to Adam,” the friend said. “She would never send him away. She just couldn’t do that.” …

Who knows how much of this is true? But it is certainly the case that more and more post-adolescents today are refusing to grow up and take responsibility for their own lives.

Of course, some of this is due to the economy, which has forced many young people to continue to live in their parents’ basements. But a lot of it is because we are extending childhood into the twenties and thirties.

This article was posted by Steve Gilbert on Thursday, December 20th, 2012. Comments are currently closed.

One Response to “Lanza Mom Tried To Get Him Out Of The House”

  1. GetBackJack

    I can hear here now (having heard this before) … “But he’s a good boy, really he is …”




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